Mixtape: The Soundtrack for Marriage
Series Big Idea: All of us who have been married, at some point, wonder if we married the wrong person. Or we put off marriage because we fear we might choose the wrong mate. Or we consider divorce convinced we got it wrong. Fact is, there are a lot of reasons for these concerns. Nobody will ever be the perfect mate or find the perfect mate. We all have our hurts, hang ups, bad habits and issues. And compatibility is a fallacy that if relied upon will set up for failure. And trying to change our partner to become the “right” person is also recipe for disaster. God intended marriage to be mysterious. That mystery is that two people become one and stay as one. In this series, we are going to put together a “mixtape” of biblical ideas that can provide a “soundtrack” of songs to help us live the mystery of having a thriving marriage as we learn to stay in love and stay as one.
Message Big Idea: The fact is if we are or will get married, we will marry the wrong person. What we mean is that we’ll never marry the perfect person. Every couple, to some extent, is a union of very different people. We are not compatible. Marriage is hard and it takes work. We are tempted to focus on why we married the wrong person and their hurts, hang ups, habits and issues that make them wrong. But if we are going to learn to love like Jesus and learn to stay in love, we need to start with ourselves. Part of the mystery of marriage isn’t about finding the right person. It’s about becoming the right person.
Main Idea: The mystery of marriage isn’t finding the right person, but becoming the right person.
Main Text: Ephesians 5:31-33
Supporting texts: 1 Corinthians 7:28
Glen started his teaching with the statement; “We all marry the wrong person.” What do you think he meant? In what ways do we marry the “wrong” person? Share your opinion on the idea.
The Bible says that those who marry will face many troubles (1 Cor. 7:28). If you are married, what are some of the biggest challenges you have faced or are facing in marriage? If you are not married, from your observation of others, what are the biggest troubles couples face?
Paul says that the mystery of marriage is oneness (Eph. 5:32). How would you describe what “oneness” looks like in human marriage? How would you describe what “oneness” looks like in our spiritual marriage to God?
The first of several principles to experience the mystery of oneness is to not focus on finding the right person, but becoming the right person. What is it about you that is your greatest hindrance to becoming one with anyone - God, a friend or a marriage partner? What inside you do you need to address? How will you get help and invite God to transform you?